A: Whoever has a poisonous injury, it is upon him to proceed with that which will remove the poison from his wound, and cleanse it.
This is acheived by a number of steps:
First
Such a person should get married or purchase a slave-woman, as the Prophet said: “If one of you looks to the charms of a woman, he should go to his wife, as she will have what is with the other woman.” This will result in a reduction of one’s desire, as well as weakening of one’s passion.
Second
One should remain firm and constant in the five daily prayers, supplication, and humble worship in the early morning hours. One should perform their prayers with concentration and presence of heart, and increase in the supplication: ‘O Controller of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your Religion! O Mover of the hearts, move my heart towards obedience to You and Your Messenger!’ This is because when one is firm upon supplicating to Allah and being humble before Him, He will automatically push his heart away from such matters, as He Said: {“Thus it was, that We might turn away from him evil and indecent acts. Surely, he was one of Our chosen, guided slaves.”} [Yusuf; 24]
Third
One should remove himself from any place in which the person who has affected him might be, and should not socialize with those whom this person socializes with, such that he will not hear any mention of this person, nor be able to lay his eyes on them.
Distance leads to abandonment, and as much as the thought of something is reduced, its effect on the heart will also be weakened.
So, one should implement these steps, and he should improve with the resultant changes that occur to his condition.
And Allah Knows best.
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[Majmu' al-Fatawa'||Ibn Taymiyah||32/5]
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These moments renew my faith in Allah (swt)! Why should I not put all my queries and worries to Him when He is the One who answers in the most beautiful manner, with much more than I could ever desire? He has full authority over all that is in the Heavens and the Earth and my childish desires and dreams seek their fulfillment only with Him. I pray that we all recognize our Rabb, really recognize Him as As-Samee, Al Baseer… the Always All-Hearing, the Always All-Seeing! Truly that is the source and pinnacle of all joys imaginable.
بارك الله فيكم
Ibn Ameen